Findom Show #004: Femdom Blurs Into Findom In Surprising Ways

Hey, welcome back. This is the Findom Show, episode number four. I’m Mari. I’m your host. I am a professional phone sex goddess. I am a femdom. I am a findomme. I am a BBW MILF.

I have big soft titties. I am dominant. I am not submissive. I am not a switch. All of my interactions with men are of a dominant nature one way or another. Not every single interaction that I have with a man is financial domination. Findom is a niche. It is a favorite niche in my business.

I love when financial domination comes into play. And it sometimes comes into play in conjunction with traditional dollars-for-minutes engagements with men. And this is where some findommes have suggested to me, oh, you’re not a real findomme because you sell your time for money. If you were a real findomme, you wouldn’t give men anything. They would just be giving you money because you exist. And that happens too. And I fucking love it. But there are financial domination aspects to so many different dynamics in my life as a professional phone sex goddess.

And I wanna share a couple of examples with you of how Findom has made an appearance in what’s otherwise a value exchange. When I am manning phone lines on my Night Flirt account, for example, if you want to call me, it’s $2.99 per minute. You call, you pay, we talk. You decide how long the call is. You decide how much money you’re going to spend enjoying my energy. But there are sometimes I will get a caller on the line and they will surprise me about maybe five minutes into the call. They might say something like Goddess, I don’t feel like I’m paying you enough, if I hang up, will you raise the rate?

Yes, I will. As soon as they make that little invitation, I have moved over to my account screen to change the rate. So, you know, they might go from paying $2.99 a minute to $5.99 a minute to $9.99 a minute. I think I’ve had a caller pay up to $24.99 a minute for a call. That’s financial domination. It’s just a different way of playing with the game. They are still getting something for their dollars, but I don’t see that as, quote, tainting financial domination at all.

It’s just another way of playing with financial domination. Dynamics, money dynamics. There’s another way that financial domination snuck into a relationship, and it took me multiple occurrences to finally identify it. So, there was a gentleman who reached out with me privately, one private client that came in through a directory, so, they weren’t on one of the platforms. When somebody reaches out to play with me as a professional. Phone sex goddess they receive a tip sheet that says, you know, you pay this much, you get this much.

You pay this, you get this. That’s not financial domination. That’s professional phone sex, professional sexting, professional camming. I’m happy to do that. That not them being a finsub, that’s not me being a findomme, that’s me being a femdomme. Professionally.

So, um, uh, the client sends the dollar amount that gets them that amount of time, and they call me and we begin our call. And about 1 minute in, they said, Goddess, I’m so sorry, I have to go. And they hung up. They didn’t ask for their money back. I wouldn’t have given them their money back. I would have let them come back and claim the call because we barely got introductions out of the way. But they never came back to claim the call, and I thought they must have been interrupted. No big deal, they’ll come back.

Well, then they reach out to me a few days later and, and they send again. And I messaged them and I said, oh, Actually, kind of had this call held for you. You didn’t have to send again. Oh no no no! That money is yours, goddess. And so they call, and about a minute in they said, “Oh, I’m so sorry, goddess. I have to go.” And they hung up. And I’m grinning because it’s like, no way did they get interrupted a second time. What’s going on? I sent them a message and I said, “Baby.” You must live a very, very busy life over there.

Yes, Goddess. That’s all they said. So now they’ve sent me two payments and not used either session, but it still hasn’t dawned on me what’s happening. They come back like five days later. Goddess, I miss your voice. Can I have a session? And they sent money again. And I said, I’m so glad.

I hope you won’t be interrupted today. And he— they called, and 1 minute in they said, thank you, goddess, and hung up. And then it hit me. Oh, fuck. This is offensive. They are vastly overpaying me for a minute at a time because this is their flavor of findom. They are paying me this large chunk of money that they are— that they have a rightful expectation of getting 20 minutes of my time, but they are only taking 1 minute of that time, and then they’re smiling. I don’t know if they are instantly orgasming in that minute.

I don’t know if it’s not about that, because you do know that not all finsubs are about an orgasm. After that third message, I sent him a text and I said, “You are a good boy,” and he just said, “Thank you, goddess.” And now we have this dynamic. It is that simple. It’s Goddess, I need you. Goddess, I miss your voice. Goddess, may I have a little— may I have a session? Yes, of course. They send. They are never on the phone for more than 1 minute.

Thank you, Goddess. And they hang up. This is why it is so precious and important to me that we not fuck ourselves over with definitions and expectations of what Findom is and what Findom isn’t, because it isn’t anything, and there’s nothing that’s not Findom if that’s the energy and intention behind it.

Do you feel me? I really hope so, because it comes in all shapes and sizes and flavors and styles and orientations, and I will accept it. I will joyfully, gleefully accept however you want to worship me and shower abundance into my life. Do you want to pay for a session, but then get on the phone and let me work on my podcast instead of talking to you? Fuck yeah! That’s Findom. Do you want to pay me to ignore you? Fuck yeah! That’s Findom. Do you want to pay me and expect absolutely nothing in return? That’s Findom.

Do you want to pay $25 a minute for a call? That’s findom. Don’t let anyone tell you any different. You be a goddess your way. I’ll be a goddess my way. You be a pay pig your way. He’ll be a pay pig his way. No right, no wrong. No shape, no form.

Just abundance. Bring it on. Bring it on.