Findom Show #001: This Is My Playground

The Findom Show Episode #001 Transcript

Hey, welcome. You just stepped onto my playground and that’s exciting. And you might not want to stay. So let me take tell you a few things up front. This is a playground. This is a play space. This is an adult play space. This is an adult woman talking about adult things.

And by adult things, I do mean sexual, erotic, spicy things. You’re like, whoops, that’s not what I was looking for. That’s okay. Step back. Back off the playground. Close it. Go find something else to listen to. Totally.

Okay. But if you’re like, what? That sounds really like, interesting. Let’s go. Well, then, welcome in. Take another step onto the playground. Find someplace comfortable to sit. There are benches, there are, there are blankets, there are cushions. Like, stay a while.

I’m Mari. I am 59. I am a professional phone sex goddess. I am not an expert, I am a long time content creator, long time podcaster. But in the spicy space, I’m a baby. I am a toddler. I am, I am a laughing, squealing, giggling, running fool for the fun of this experience. That’s my attitude in so many ways.

But then also the other side of the coin is that I am, I’m 59. I am super in touch with myself. I embrace my autonomy. I love myself. Ridiculously, I. I am playful and childlike and open and curious and I know where my boundaries are. And let me tell you what, both of that, those, both of those sides of me being true is fucking delicious and necessary to thrive in this space. Because when we start talking about financial domination, there are all kinds of people who want to lay out all kinds of rules.

There’s someone who’s like, excuse me, but this is financial domination. That is not financial domination. This is, is how you do it. And all that other nonsense is just not the real deal. Oh, fuck off with that. It’s fucking exhausting people trying to tell you there’s a right way and a wrong route, wrong way to do Kingston Fetish. Oh my God. Welcome in.

This is my playground. This is where I get to be curious and creative and embrace some whimsy, have some fun, be myself and invite you to do the same. What do I want from Findam show? I want to talk to subscribe about their experience of financial domination. I want to talk to doms about their experience of financial domination. I’m not looking for anyone to tell me, here’s the right way to do it, here’s the wrong way to do it. I’m looking for people to tell me, here’s my experience of it. Here’s an experience I found deeply satisfying. Here’s an experience that left me flat.

We can do that without saying one way is right and one way is wrong. We are humans. Every human, every single one of us. We’re walking around in these flesh suits with needs and cravings and wants and desires. There’s something we want to give, there’s something we want to get, there’s something we want to experience. And we’re moving around this world bumping up against other people in flesh suits with their own wants, desires, needs, cravings. And sometimes we bump into each other hoping that we’re going to give what we want and get what we want, and we don’t. That doesn’t make the other one right or wrong.

It just means our experiences weren’t aligned together. We didn’t create what we both wanted. That doesn’t mean either one of us did it wrong or fucked it up. Means it just didn’t create what we were looking for. And so we move on. This is an important attitude for me to thrive in this space. And let’s be clear about one thing. I do thrive in this space.

From the first 48 hours that I tinkered curiously and creatively with the adult spicy world, I experienced arousal, pleasure, abundance, and excitement to a level that blew my mind. And it has only grown since then. Welcome in. I. I hope you’re enjoying your experience so far. I hope that you are feeling curious. I hope that you are feeling creative. I hope that you are hitting subscribe wherever you found the podcast.

Because I’m gonna really enjoy spending time with you in this playground. Whether you’re a sub, whether you’re a dom, whether you’re a curious onlooker, you’re all really welcome here. Maybe you’re thinking, oh, I’d like to be a guest. Well, reach out. You know, let’s. Let’s chat about it a little bit because I do want to have guests, probably mostly anonymous. You’ll also hear from my spicy bestie, Mia will be joining me here on the podcast quite a bit. You’ll hear if you have listened to one of my other podcasts, you, you know who Mia is.

If you haven’t, I do. There are two other spicy podcasts that I produce. One is Phone Sex show, which is focused on. It’s made for customers, clients subscribe to, listen and hear about our experiences with them and the kinks and fetishes that we talk about, that’s. That. That’s a lot of fun. Phonesexshow.com but then I also produce Sensual Abundance. That’s a podcast for my fellow spicy creators.

And that’s where I lean into the mindset of embracing your autonomy and realizing you’re fucking amazing and that your unique sensual energy is a key to abundance in the spicy spaces. And it’s really, it’s the, it’s the experience of those two podcasts that led to the birth of this one. Because I’ve talked about Phin Dom on Phone Sex Show a little bit and I’ve talked about Fin Dom on Sensual Abundance a little bit. In fact, I recently interviewed an anonymous Fin sub for Sensual Abundance. And it was that interview is that experience of that interview that I said I want to do that more. And so that’s where this podcast comes from, Financial domination. There is no one right way to do it. There’s.

There’s no way to break it, fuck it up, ruin it. There’s only a couple of humans, one who wants to give and one who wants to receive. Finding the right vibe, the right energy to create that flow in a satisfying way, that’s my stand. And if you’re listening and you’re like, I just. Damn it, Mari, I completely disagree. That’s okay. I’m not here to convince you. And so long as you’re not here to convince me, I would love to hear your experiences of financial domination.

Here’s what’s super key. Because on one hand I’m saying there are no rules, but on the other hand, I am going to say there are your rules. If you are, if you’re the dominant side of a thin relationship, there are your rules. You get to say, this is what financial domination means to me. If you want to worship me, you will follow my rules. That’s, that’s. Yes. You, the dominant partner.

Partner is probably a wrong word, an ill fitting word. I try not to use. Right or wrong partner is probably an ill fitting word for the dom sub connection. But if you’re the dom and you’ve got rules, if a sub wants to serve you, they follow your rules. Yes. Where I get itchy is when someone says, well, then that’s how everyone has to do it, or it’s not financial domination. Fuck off with that energy. Do you follow me? Do you get me? Do you feel me? If you have an experience of financial domination, if you have a successful creation of the dynamic that gives you pleasure, man, I would love to fucking hear about it.

If you would like to be a guest here on the podcast and come and tell me, here’s how I got into it. And here’s what I tried and here’s what works for me and here’s what he creates for me. And these are the rules I play by. And you can do that being an open minded, open hearted invitation to others. Let’s play, let’s do it. But if you want to come on here and say, let me tell you, here’s the right way to do it, here’s the wrong way to do it, and if you’re not doing it my way, you are not doing financial domination, yeah, fuck off with that. Enter. The energy you bring to play with me is important.

I’m deeply resistant to people telling me that there’s a right way and a wrong way to do anything. In kink and fetish, there’s, there’s only the rules that two human come up with that work for both of them. There are, there are the boundaries, there are the parameters and it’s different for everyone. I want to tell you a little story. I want to tell you like two little stories that really highlight for me the energy around financial domination, financial submission and how I have an experience I have in the last 48 hours. I have a pretty exciting experience of financial submission from a man who does not think of himself as a financial sub. So. So I have a, I have a professional relationship with a man who has been paying for sessions with me as a professional phone sex goddess for a few weeks.

But something happened a few days ago where he was, he was at work and he was turned on and he was thinking about me and he sent me money and we had negotiated a come tax where if he comes thinking about me, he has to send me come tax. So when I received that money, I sent him a text and I said, oh, you must have come thinking about me. He said, no, actually I didn’t come. I’m at work. But I can’t stop thinking about you. And I feel I ought to acknowledge that. And I smiled and said, good boy. And in that moment I thought to myself, that’s, that’s really sweet.

Like that’s for me an ex, an experience of financial submission. It has connected in his mind that if he’s thinking about me and he’s aroused, I ought to be paid. That has some financial submission flavor to it. Whether you agree or not, I don’t care. For me, it has some financial submission flavor. And a couple hours later he sent again. And a couple of hours later he sent again. And each time I just acknowledged it with some emojis and a good boy.

And I said, I’m feeling really worshiped right now. And he said, I’m glad. And that’s all there was to it. But then it continued again yesterday with ascend and I can’t stop thinking about you. And I just gave him a little winky emoji and said, of course. And a couple of hours later, another send. And. And I said, let me look.

Let me look back at my. My exchange. Oh, he said something about. He said, I love the abuse. And I got curious. I’m like, what abuse? And he said, yes, I see. Do you mean the fact that you’re thinking about me, you’re aroused and you’re at work and you can’t do anything about it? And he’s like, yeah, yes. And I said, okay.

And at that point, well, he sent again. And I said, do you know you turn me on when you do that? He said, what’s that? I said, when you pay me for the privilege of thinking dirty thoughts about me. And he said, yes. Yes. Now, I’m not saying to him, hey, you’re acting like a fin sub. I’m telling him, though, I’m aroused by the fact that you’re paying me just because you thought about me. I am now officially thinking of him as being offensive, But I don’t need to tell him that to make it real. I’m experiencing arousal because he’s sending me money multiple times a day just because he thought about me.

Okay, okay, okay. He did. He did come back a little bit later and pay for an actual sexting session. So he sent a higher dollar amount and specifically said, can we sext for a little while? And I said, yes. See how blurry the edges are? The other six times he sent over the 48 hours, he sent a dollar amount just because he wanted to honor me for occupying his thoughts. Then he sent a larger amount for a session. He’s got fin sub vibes with me right now, but he doesn’t think of it that way. I don’t need him to think about it that way, but I am aroused by that.

Now, let’s contrast this. Let’s set this lovely gentleman aside for a moment. There’s another gentleman who specifically told me, I feel financially submissive towards you. I wish you would financially dominate me. I feel weak around you. I really want you to use me. And he never sent, Do I perceive him as a fin sub? No. Isn’t it interesting? The lines are blurry, the edges are fuzzy.

Then the kink defies perfect definition. The silly boy who confessed to be a fin sub. Didn’t send, did not arouse me, did not turn me on. The the other. He just thought his dirty thoughts and honored me for them. In my mind, he’s got finse up vibes. In my mind, I’m aroused by that. See, this is why we’re just not going to create a set of rules.

We’re not going to say this is financial domination. This is not financial domination. It’s whatever the fuck you feel it is. It’s whatever turns you on about the financial side of the energy exchange. That’s. That’s my stand. I am so excited about moving forward, creating this podcast, putting this together. If you’re a fin sub and you want to talk to me about an experience of financial domination that you’ve had, I’d love to talk to you about it.

If you’re a fin dom, you’d like to share an experience of financial domination that you’ve had, I would love to hear about it. Reach out to me. We can record it anonymously. Unless you want to be known, that’s up to you. But yeah, I’m going to be back with more of my own experiences of financial domination, So. I’m so glad you found us. So glad you found me. So, so glad you found this playground.

Come play.